You will need
- - the recorder;
- - access to the Internet;
- - stationery;
- - literature for improving diction;
- - literature of oratory.
Work on the ability to speak begins, paradoxically, not conversations and letters. Get a diary and write in it the events of the day. Keep the entries were succinct and to the point. Learn to identify the main and to structure it.
Read more of classic literature for vocabulary development. Study the scientific literature on descriptive topics. See the meanings of unfamiliar terms in the dictionary and then try to apply them in their speech.
Work on improving diction. Even interesting and emotional story to be poorly perceived if the narrator does not speak the letters, losing the end of words, etc. To do this, perform special exercises that develop mobility of the lips and muscles of the tongue. Learn more tongue twisters and strive to learn to pronounce them accurately and at high speed.
Learn the basics of oratory. You can use classic works of Cicero on the theory of rhetoric and modern development. Many of them can be found on the Internet.
Once you have learned to structure their stories, practice the following exercises. It is best to do it in company with someone for an objective assessment. Select any word and within a certain time, tell us about it. For example, the word "nut" and a period of 5 minutes. Then 5 minutes at a time need to tell you all about nuts, applying their knowledge about presenting speeches. Then ask them to rate your story as it was interesting to listen to, not have you lost the logic of the narrative.
Keep monologues on various topics from gardening to politics. Better to do it in front of the mirror. So you will be able to assess your facial expressions and gestures. If it seems that it's inconclusive, try to work with the help of special textbooks on the language.
Record your monologues on a dictaphone and listen to them some time later. So you can evaluate your speech from the outside, to see the advantages and disadvantages. This method is very good at helping to remove parasites from your vocabulary.
The study of the theory and exercises will not bring a good result without practice. Try to strike up a conversation about something completely unrelated with a stranger, for example, a seller in the store. Spend more time in companies and start conversations on topics you're interested in. Just don't forget about the sense of proportion. The fact that you have mastered the art of interesting conversation, doesn't mean you can stop being a good listener. Remember that too "interesting" people, who in conversation is admired only themselves and the beauty of his speech, gradually begin to avoid. However, those who will be able to find a middle ground, always really will be the center of attention.
Advice 2: How to learn interesting to talk to
Man is a social being. In addition to the needs for food and warmth, he feels the need to communicate. Your communication success depends on you. Speakers aren't born: it is only constant practice can make you an interesting conversationalist.
To learn how to Express thoughts logically and consistently will help you with writing. Keep a diary and to Express their impressions around. Describe in detail the daily events. Such a diary can be maintained in electronic form.
To become an interesting conversationalist, expand your horizons. Travel, read books, visit theatres, exhibitions, museums. Meet with different people about their life, Hobbies.
Learn by heart poems. Read them out loud, expressive. This will develop in you a sense of beauty, broaden horizons and help to improve memory. It is also useful to teach tongue twisters, Proverbs. Your friends can be interesting anecdotes and quotations of famous people.
Rehearse your speech. Stand in front of the mirror, play the tape and guide a monologue. Can you tell the same anecdotes or interesting stories from your life. Watch for gestures and facial expressions. Try to talk about what is interesting to the people listening to you. Prepping fishing enthusiasts, we can hardly cram lectures on strength of materials.
Pay attention to his appearance. If your appearance is something defiantly "stick out" – for example, holey jeans, torn buttons – it is unlikely that you will listen carefully. Most likely, you will make jokes, giggle. So you have to look neat.
Success in communication is achieved by people who know how to listen well. Don't interrupt the opponent, ask clarifying and probing questions, learn to empathize. Show the interviewee their interest periodically nods and assents. But it should look natural, not dramatic.
Learn to allocate the main thing, as in written texts and spontaneous speech of people. Brief spokesman said: "so, as I understand it, your main problem is that...". This technique will make you an indispensable listener, the narrator will show that you listened carefully to his speech.