Probably you are not confident in themselves and believe that it is not able to please guys. The roots of these complexes, as most likely to leave in childhood. If you seriously want to work on this problem, it would be better to go to a psychologist. And in the meantime decide what you are missing, to please men. Perhaps you think that you are well-read enough or your clothes are too formal and boring. Start to fix it yourself! Visit your library, change your wardrobe and become an interesting and beautiful girl in your understanding.
Buy a subscription to a fitness club, go to a beauty salon. Even if you just started treatments, and the effect is not visible yet, the very awareness that you take care of yourself will give you confidence. And confident girls like guys.
You can have an interesting conversation, to think of a witty comeback to a joke – but it all only with myself, replaying conversations in your head? Start chatting with guys on the forums. Choose those topics that you understand or that interest you. The pros of communication in the forum is that you can edit your answer or even ignore a message. Trained to communicate with young people on the Internet, you'll be less shy in real life.
If you're desperate and want to get rid of the embarrassment as quickly as possible – jump into the pool with his head. Speak with reports at student's conferences, sing in the karaoke clubs perform at work with new projects, participate in Amateur art activities. After a dozen incidents over which you will be very to survive, you will become more free and liberated.
If the confusion you have is not all the strong half of humanity, but only one particular of its representative, do not hurry to fight with this feeling. Think about whether it's a sign that you are beginning to feel towards him something stronger than friendly affection.
Advice 2: How not to be shy in bed
Problems in bed are often not associated with the physiological characteristics of partners, and with psychological preparation of both. The main enemies of good sex – shyness and fear to look ridiculous. Stiffness becomes an obstacle to obtaining a true pleasure.
Discuss "forbidden" topics is considered tactless and indecent. Hence the tightness of the bed. And even if the partner will do everything wrong, it would be awkward to send in the right direction. This psychological constraint leads to the imitation of orgasm, lack of satisfaction in sexual life. Task of partners is to learn to have fun in bed. This can be achieved if you will find psychological contact with each other. In a calm confidential environment to discuss thoughts and desires, talk with your partner about what he wants in sex, how wants to implement it, and what it needs.
Stiffness in the sex – a fairly common problem newcomers, inexperienced boys and girls. If your partner is of those, help him, try to direct, to teach, gently supporting. If you are inexperienced in love, engage in self-education. Written many manuals and books of fiction. Naturally, the stiffness is gradually overcome and in the process often "practical training". Interesting "immodest" option – together to watch a porn film.
Invite the shy partner an active role. If you are always in bed was leading, at least once switch roles. If you always covered the stiffness at the sight of a naked partner, try to take his dominant role, cease to be a slave. It helps to overcome shyness and restraint in sex. Tell me lover/Oh, what are you willing to do what it wants. If some of them will seem unpleasant or unacceptable, do not be afraid to speak directly about it. So you will achieve harmony in sex.
One of the reasons for embarrassment in bed are worrying about imperfections of their body. Stop worrying. Your partner sees you as a whole. Remember how he looks at you, how he wants you as you are dear to him. Obviously, your flaws, he just doesn't notice, because there is no reason for you to feel embarrassed about them. Otherwise, if you can't overcome natural shyness about excess weight, flaws on the body, etc., then it's time to change. Pull yourself together, sit on a diet, work out, consult a doctor. Most likely, the cause is to be corrected one way or another, and this will allow you to love and accept yourself.