Advice 1: How not to take everything to heart

People, caring and sensitive by nature, sometimes perceive the feelings of others as their own. Empathy, of course, positive trait, but it can be truly debilitating for someone who is generously endowed her. Psychologists even allocate a separate condition called "empathy fatigue," which affects not only your mental, but even physical health.



Instruction
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Learn how to set healthy relationship boundaries. Your tendency toward compassion sometimes compels you to make things uncomfortable for you in any emotional or physical sense. Remind yourself that your healthy emotions and desires should be a priority towards those who you are projecting to other people.
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Separate their own and other people's emotions. If you are prone to empathy, you sometimes difficult to determine who owned you are experiencing feelings you or the other party? Learn to define their attitude to the events, and not to perceive only what translates your counterpart.
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Remember that other people's emotions are not yours, you are not required to test them. If you met someone who deeply and sincerely mourn, you can sympathize with this person but should not continue to be sad after Express your support and go further. If someone need help, your negative emotions will only prevent you to provide it, will not concentrate and will disrupt the clarity of perception and a willingness to set goals and achieve them.
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Remember that everything you learn is just history. Be critical. There are things that do deserve sympathy, but about such incidents, no one doubts that they are sad and tragic. The rest can be only a desire for someone to draw you to his side, to what psychologists call "stroking" or a distorted perception of what is happening. Don't take the emotional story, listen first to the facts.
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Take care of yourself. If you are upset by events that do not concern you, and you can close them access into your life. For example, stop to watch those channels that carry news only bad news in tragic tones, don't buy tickets to theatre performances or premieres, if you know in advance that there are scenes that can bring you out of balance for a long time. Tell yourself that this work of art is designed for those who compassion to awaken, and your already not Napping.
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Look for the positive emotions. Communicate with positive people, not those who hours tells you about their suffering. The latter often do not want to abandon the troubles, making their lives , from their point of view, significant and serious.
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On the computer, create an "emergency" folder full of files – be it video or audio clips, pictures, letters, or poems that make you smile. "Take" positive emotions, as soon as you feel that something is too hard to upset you.

Advice 2: How to stop all to take to heart

Constant stress and tension worsen emotional and mental state of a person. If you pay attention to all the details and troubles that occur during the day, very soon, the internal resources of the organism are exhausted.
Instruction
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People who take everything to heart, very quickly become patients of psychologists, and then neurologists. Learn to evaluate any situation from the point of view of threats to your life and well-being. If some problem scares and disturbs you, it is sensible to consider the effect – you are unlikely to get fired for this (chew, fall out of love, deprive of communication, etc.), and so to worry over. Frightening you think of the upcoming conversation as inevitable, unpleasant, but short-lived.
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Always remember that life can't only consist of the failures or joys, is a "mixture" of both. Any trouble consider with regard to possible lessons for you, there is nothing more valuable than your own experience. The problem is not eternal, and sooner or later the situation will change and it will become irrelevant.
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If you are used to worry about little things, it speaks of low self esteem. Appreciate and love yourself, your heart, your nerves – a drawback your personality.
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Take care of your health and soberly assess their capabilities, do not grasp several things at once, while seeking to fulfill all perfect. Indulge yourself as often as possible, learn to relax mentally and physically.
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There are things and situations that people can change, and those that he can not change. Take circumstances for granted and do not torture yourself unnecessarily. If something torments you constantly and takes all of your thoughts, you are desperately trying to solve the problem and get upset when nothing comes out, leave it as is. Just avoid mentioning that you are sad, try to banish disturbing your thoughts.
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Surround yourself with friendly people with easy attitude to life – you have much to learn from them. Do not waste energy on fighting non-existent problems, send it in a constructive direction: engage your positive emotions into your life, do things you love, learn to enjoy these things.
Note
Keep in mind that empathic fatigue can lead to depression and negative patterns of behavior. People begin to drink or use drugs to numb the pain of others and destroy their lives. If you understand that it is not able to cope with his too "great and good" heart, ask for help to the professionals.
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