The simplest case is when the feelings is mutual arousal, and the lovers themselves understand that "it's time to know and honor". Usually there is enough of the little phrase: "Thank you, I will keep very good memories, but sooner or later everything ends". And the parting is peaceful and civilized, without mutual claims or threats.
If a woman is very angry at a lover, for example, he did something much hurt and wants to end their relationship on their own initiative, the best option would just disappear. That is, briefly to tell him (preferably by phone): "We can no longer meet, don't ask any questions, forget me!" and stop all contacts. And sometimes not to say anything. But this method can be resorted to only if the woman firmly is convinced lover will take it relatively peacefully, and not try to take revenge.
A very difficult case - when the lover was very ambitious, with a strong "proprietary" instinct. If he still is prone to hysterical demonstrative actions, that separation from him is akin to heroism. He's out of pure principle I will try or to keep a woman, or cause her the maximum possible damages for "insult". How is it – left it! The feeling of wounded selfish pride can push a man to the most unworthy, even criminal, acts. Therefore, the best way here is to push him to go. So the initiative definitely belonged to him. And how to do it – tell a woman's intuition.
So, in conclusion, still find it hard to resist the Council: before to have a lover, you need to think about it. Because the price for the pleasure may be prohibitive.
Advice 2: How to leave a lover
If we're talking about a lover, it means you are married. No matter how and why did it happen that you started to change, but sooner or later, if you decide to keep your family, you will have to leave. As this procedure to be less painful?
Stop cheating yourself. The constant hype and lies that accompany infidelity, adversely affect the nervous system and, ultimately, on General health. If you are still very much tied to the lover, then, it may be worthwhile to look at it without rose-colored glasses of love. Take a look at it, find some negative traits, what are the artistic mess in his apartment – sloppiness, his late inattention to you, no presents – greed. Even if it is not so, the separation will become easier.
Talk to him. If both of you are calm, relaxed people, then he will respect your choice and will not insist on the continuation of the relationship. Worse, if your boyfriend is neurotic, then you have to try to accustom him to the thought of the inevitable separation. Convince him that the breakup is inevitable. It is the easier it is to do that you have a family. Here you not palter, if I will refer to the attachment to her husband and love for children.
Cause it to tear. Here we, women, do not know to itself equal. There are many ways to arrange scandals, saw him, demand the impossible. This is enough to make anyone understand that you are not the woman of his dreams.
Disappear for a long time. Take, finally, things that you constantly put it off, go on courses, devote free time to yourself, children and husband. Do not respond to his calls and letters, let them know that you are not boring and you can do quite well without his presence in my life.
Do not pull. Though the decision to break up with a lover, matured in your head, then pull is not necessary, it is better to place all points, even this gap will be more painful, but it will save a lot of nerves, time and effort.