The gap has a severe impact on the woman's self-esteem, even if the spouse was not beloved. She feels like a loser, because the family, which seemed established forever, was a flop venture. In this situation it is important not to blame yourself for the breakup. The man chose another? This does not mean that you are worthless.
You have time to correct the situation. You have dedicated yourself exclusively to the care of the family? Now take care of your appearance, health, change your wardrobe, update your hairstyle. These simple maneuvers are an amazing way to heal from an inferiority complex.
To drown grief in wine, to indulge in partying, to hatch plans for revenge on her rival in love is not at all effective measures, and attempts to drown out the emotional pain. You are experiencing a serious stress to deal with that alone not just. Consult with a psychologist. He doesn't bring her husband back, but get rid of the idea that life is over.
Your task is to accept the fact that her husband left and never stop loving yourself. Let him know that you don't intend to bury yourself in the four walls, waiting for his return. Leave the door open. If you are really ready to take it back, tell him he can come back if you want, but do not beg him to do it.
No matter how difficult, not to withdraw into themselves. Talk to people, get out to parties, don't throw your favorite hobby. At first, positive emotions are weak, especially if you are used to spend leisure time with her husband. But over time, you will feel significant relief.
Flirt with other men! Let you are not yet ready for a new relationship, but to feel beautiful and desirable very nice. Do it yourself gifts. Travel, even for a couple of days in a nearby town. Husband can not catch you at home? Well, this is its complexity.
It turns out that living alone isn't so scary and sometimes even nice. You had to create yourself beautiful and desirable, a runaway husband can't not notice. To be sure, mutual friends tell him about your successes. He left wivesare accustomed to, and now before him quite a different woman. You are ready to prefer his new Beau?
Advice 2: As to believe her husband after infidelity
Every woman entering into a marriage, especially for the big and strong love, sincerely believes and hopes her husband will love her! And the thought of cheating won't even come to his mind. Alas, the reality is sometimes far from those rosy dreams. A wife suddenly learn that their husband because they are wrong. And they face a tough question: what next? To divorce or to keep the family together?
Each deceived wife decides this question in their own way, depending on many factors: the depth and sincerity of the feelings to the husband, character, temperament, vaccinated norms and attitudes (including religious), material status, presence and age of children, etc. In most cases, she forgives her husband. But how do you? As to believe her husband after infidelity?
Remember the words of the great sage Confucius: "a Strong and smart person blames for their problems and failures on himself, weak and stupid – others." It's so easy to shift the blame for her husband's infidelity on the treacherous "temptress"! Much harder and more painful to admit: if the husband became interested in "jailbait", if you found something than can not boast of you to blame for this, first of all, you.
If you are unable to restore trust in the relationship, and constantly repeat to yourself: "I suspect her husband of infidelity, then subconsciously admit their own inadequacy, his inability to be his most beloved, the most desirable and attractive!" But once the husband loved you alone. Once, there was no other women. Bring back love and passion in your power.
Do not spare yourself and do not give the following arguments: "Before, we were younger and prettier, and now, after the birth of children, after all those household chores, where we compete in attractiveness with the young damsels!" Fold these thoughts, because, to put it mildly, a weak argument. First, in any case you should take care of yourself and maintain your beauty and feminine allure. Second, for many men are more valuable than good nature wife, a comfortable, cozy atmosphere in the house created it, rather than external data.
Firmly remember, the more willing the husband returns home, the less chance that it will pull to the side." So you need to make every effort to have the house became her husband's a really warm, cosy and friendly. Then thought about the possible infidelity will no longer come to mind, and confidence in her husband will return.